fix race condition in pthread_kill

fix race condition in pthread_kill

if thread id was reused by the kernel between the time pthread_kill
read it from the userspace pthread_t object and the time of the tgkill
syscall, a signal could be sent to the wrong thread. the tgkill
syscall was supposed to prevent this race (versus the old tkill
syscall) but it can't; it can only help in the case where the tid is
reused in a different process, but not when the tid is reused in the
same process.

the only solution i can see is an extra lock to prevent threads from
exiting while another thread is trying to pthread_kill them. it should
be very very cheap in the non-contended case.