fix missing synchronization in atomic store on i386 and x86_64

fix missing synchronization in atomic store on i386 and x86_64

despite being strongly ordered, the x86 memory model does not preclude
reordering of loads across earlier stores. while a plain store
suffices as a release barrier, we actually need a full barrier, since
users of a_store subsequently load a waiter count to determine whether
to issue a futex wait, and using a stale count will result in soft
(fail-to-wake) deadlocks. these deadlocks were observed in malloc and
possible with stdio locks and other libc-internal locking.

on i386, an atomic operation on the caller's stack is used as the
barrier rather than performing the store itself using xchg; this
avoids the need to read the cache line on which the store is being
performed. mfence is used on x86_64 where it's always available, and
could be used on i386 with the appropriate cpu model checks if it's
shown to perform better.