workaround another sendmsg kernel bug on 64-bit machines

workaround another sendmsg kernel bug on 64-bit machines

the kernel wrongly expects the cmsg length field to be size_t instead
of socklen_t. in order to work around the issue, we have to impose a
length limit and copy to a local buffer. the length limit should be
more than sufficient for any real-world use; these headers are only
used for passing file descriptors and permissions between processes
over unix sockets.