fix open_[w]memstream behavior when no writes take place

fix open_[w]memstream behavior when no writes take place

the specification for these functions requires that the buffer/size
exposed to the caller be valid after any successful call to fflush or
fclose on the stream. the implementation's approach is to update them
only at flush time, but that misses the case where fflush or fclose is
called without any writes having taken place, in which case the write
flushing callback will not be called.

to fix both the observable bug and the desired invariant, setup empty
buffers at open time and fail the open operation if no memory is
available.