fix and future-proof against stack overflow in aio io threads

fix and future-proof against stack overflow in aio io threads

aio threads not using SIGEV_THREAD notification are created with small
stacks and no guard page, which is possible since they only run the
code for the requested io operation, not any application code. the
motivation is not creating a lot of VMAs. however, the io thread needs
to be able to receive a cancellation signal in case aio_cancel
(implemented via pthread_cancel) is called. this requires sufficient
stack space for a signal frame, which PTHREAD_STACK_MIN does not
necessarily include.

in principle MINSIGSTKSZ from signal.h should give us sufficient space
for a signal frame, but the value is incorrect on some existing archs
due to kernel addition of new vector register support without
consideration for impact on ABI. some powerpc models exceed
MINSIGSTKSZ by about 0.5k, and x86[_64] with AVX-512 can exceed it by
up to about 1.5k. so use MINSIGSTKSZ+2048 to allow for the discrepancy
plus some working space.

unfortunately, it's possible that signal frame sizes could continue to
grow, and some archs (aarch64) explicitly specify that they may.
passing of a runtime value for MINSIGSTKSZ via AT_MINSIGSTKSZ in the
aux vector was added to aarch64 linux, and presumably other archs will
use this mechanism to report if they further increase the signal frame
size. when AT_MINSIGSTKSZ is present, assume it's correct, so that we
only need a small amount of working space in addition to it; in this
case just add 512.